We don't learn about menopause in advance!
Nobody told me about perimenopause. Its not something my mom talked about or any healthcare professional I’d seen. We didn’t talk about it at work, the environment was too competitive to admit any level of weakness – certainly psychological. Yet for most women the most troubling impacts of perimenopause is the psychological impact.
Thank fully the conversation has opened up – thank you Davina McCall, Kate Muir Dr Louise Newson, Dr Lisa Mosconi and many others for your work.
There has been progress and room for a lot more for women and their families to understand more about this natural and predictable life transition. (If you were born female, you’ll experience it) Even today, despite the growing awareness, perimenopause remains a taboo subject, shrouded in mystery and misinformation for many.
All I knew was that at 41, my body and mind were doing things I couldn’t explain. I felt “off” and exhausted. I experienced Anxiety for the first time. I chalked it up to stress. But deep down, I feared the worst. I’d considered the possibility of early-onset dementia or a terminal illness? Perhaps I was losing my mind?
I was one of the lucky women out there. The GP, I’d been allocated for an appointment specialised in Women’s Health, she suspected it could be perimenopause and I chose Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT), if the symptoms were due to a hormone loss it made sense to replace them (anti anxiety medication was also offered as a choice too)
The impact for me was rapid, within a couple of days I felt normal and my energy levels were back.
HRT isn’t the only option for symptom control, friends have had success with natural remedies. I exercise and use mindfulness and breathing techniques too.
So many women aren’t so lucky. Symptoms result in them giving up careers (1:10 women leave careers during this time) Incidence of suicide increases significantly for women at this time also. We lose confidence and relationships suffer.
The menopause brain
This year (2024), I’ve listened to Dr. Lisa Mosconi’s book “The Menopause Brain.”
Dr. Mosconi’s research into the “menopause brain” explains the profound impact of the hormone changes around menopause on our brain and nervous systems.
The anxiety and sleep problems, and even my fears of dementia made sense. All typical of a brain responding to the hormone changes of menopause.
“This has resulted in me taking even greater charge of my health. I prioritise sleep, eat a brain-healthy diet, and incorporate stress-reducing activities into my daily routine. (exercise, mindfulness and breath work)
I’m confident in advocating for myself and in advising others how to advocate with their doctors.
Let's break the silence - my misson
I knew what I was experiencing was real, its important that others do too.
Its so easy for women to be dismissed by family, work colleagues, healthcare providers and even other women.
I’m so grateful for the work of Davina McCall, Dr. Lisa Mosconi, and countless other women who have brought menopause into the mainstream conversation.
Every women has a different story , whilst some wonder what the fuss is about its estimated 80-90% of women experience some symptoms, with 25% of women describing them as severe or debilitating.
It can be terrifying.
That’s why I’m committed to breaking the silence around menopause, especially perimenopause.
I want to share my story and the knowledge I’ve gained; women don’t have to suffer in silence or fear the worst. Neither do those close to them, that can often become indirectly impacted by the experience
Let’s talk openly about menopause and support each other through this transformative phase of life. We deserve nothing less.
My plea;
Remember, you’re not alone in this. Let’s start talking about menopause and support each other through this life stage.
There are so many options to connect with others – look for local menopause café’s , workplace support groups, many gyms run programmes or even – Start your own!
“Education is the most powerful weapon you can use to change the world”
Nelson Mandela
Useful Resources
Books:
- The Menopause Brain: by Dr. Lisa Mosconi
- Preparing for the Perimenopause and Menopause: by Dr. Louise Newson
- The Complete Guide to Menopause: by Dr. Marilyn Glenville
- Everything You Need to Know About the Menopause (But Were Too Afraid to Ask): by Kate Muir
Documentaries:
- Davina McCall: Sex, Myths and the Menopause (Channel 4)
Websites and Apps:
- The Balance App: Founded by Dr. Louise Newson, offers personalized menopause support and information.
- The Menopause Charity: Co-founded by Dr. Louise Newson, provides information and resources for women and healthcare professionals.
- Kate Muir’s Website: Features information and resources on menopause, including articles, videos, and links to her documentaries.
- The Electra App and Website: Offers a community for women going through menopause, with forums, articles, and expert advice.
- NHS Menopause Page: Provides reliable information on menopause symptoms, treatment options, and support services in the UK.
Additional Resources:
- Menopause Matters Forum: A supportive online community for women to share their experiences and ask questions.
- The Daisy Network: A charity providing support and information for women with
